Today I quietly freaked out that I'm going to have a child. This happens on occasion. But then I remember that I'm 29 and figure timing isn't everything and I'm not unprepared.
When is it ever a good time? Who is ready? Okay, so 20 year olds barely out of college who are madly in love working toward their first marriage are ready (that was me). When I turned 22 I became unprepared again but never gave up the idea that I would have children someday.
As 30 approaches I found myself still not ready... a glimpse into how men feel. But I still have not given up the idea. Whereas, it seems every man I have met over 30 tells me, "Well, I haven't be ready yet, so I guess that means I don't want kids." In the back of my mind I think, "Really?! Why?" But then I realize the truth. Men don't look ahead, they barely look to tomorrow, maybe they will look enough ahead to see next week or their next vacation but they skip everything in between. Women on the other hand have been calculating every detail of their lives since they were six. We look so far down the road that we see the front porch swing, the grandkids, and the garden full of tiger lilies.
Regardless of all that planning it never seems to match the timing in life. We women accept that unpredictability but not without frustration, tears, or anger. When things do happen, we are more grateful than fearful unlike our counter part.
When is it ever a good time? Who is ready? Okay, so 20 year olds barely out of college who are madly in love working toward their first marriage are ready (that was me). When I turned 22 I became unprepared again but never gave up the idea that I would have children someday.
As 30 approaches I found myself still not ready... a glimpse into how men feel. But I still have not given up the idea. Whereas, it seems every man I have met over 30 tells me, "Well, I haven't be ready yet, so I guess that means I don't want kids." In the back of my mind I think, "Really?! Why?" But then I realize the truth. Men don't look ahead, they barely look to tomorrow, maybe they will look enough ahead to see next week or their next vacation but they skip everything in between. Women on the other hand have been calculating every detail of their lives since they were six. We look so far down the road that we see the front porch swing, the grandkids, and the garden full of tiger lilies.
Regardless of all that planning it never seems to match the timing in life. We women accept that unpredictability but not without frustration, tears, or anger. When things do happen, we are more grateful than fearful unlike our counter part.
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